Category Archives: happiness

Don’t Waste Your Energy Trying to Change Opinions. Do Your Thing, and Don’t Care If They Like It – Tina Fey

Like many people, I face a constant battle of worrying too much about what others think. Whether you realize it or not, these concerns about other people’s opinions can dictate your small, daily actions. And you will definitely know when other people’s opinions dictate your large, life-changing actions.

Basing your actions on what other people think is nothing but a recipe for unhappiness and unfulfillment. At the end of the day, you will never be satisfied if you’re not living a life and chasing goals that serve your own best interest. Accomplishing the goal of pleasing those around you, whether family, friends, or strangers, will simply never be enough.

If a person is going to respect and like you, they will do so even if you aren’t doing what they want. And most of the time, you’ll find that the people around aren’t thinking about what you’re doing, and just want you to be happy.

Start pursuing an unusual goal because it will improve the quality of your life, and your life alone. Don’t worry about making people understand why you’re doing this – You’ll find that doing your own thing was the best option all along.

This post first appeared on The Seeds 4 Life written by April Stearns

What is Happiness?

From a poem by Samuel Sadler at The Violet City:
 
“What is happiness?
My happiness comes in little poems,
Like the eye of the hurricane:
The moment of rest after one chaotic lifetime
And the next.”

How God Uses the Damaged To Change the World

Almost 9 years ago, I let Jesus into my life in a way that I had denied Him for the previous 21. Letting Him into my life was one step; desperately calling Him into my heart was another. 

HINDSIGHT AND ITS TREASURES

Nine years of asking questions, of challenging the skepticism/doubt of my atheistic years, and coming to understand the difference between knowing about God and knowing God personally has brought me a long ways from where I first began when I moved away from Michigan in search for who I was. Without God, I was without an identity; I had defined myself with the rage in my heart for all the aching of my adolescence: The heartbreaks, my parents’ divorce; the confusion, the pain, and the idea of a loving God amidst the struggle to even consider living another day—these themes smeared my identity like tattoos. I wasn’t bound to religion, I was bound to what the secular mentality taught me was the way life must be lived when faith in something higher than me didn’t make sense. 

THE REMNANTS OF A DEAD WORLD AFTER CONVERSION

My heart has been aching again lately. Christianity is not a cure-all pill that makes the world perfect when you accept Jesus. Depression is still depression, moods still vacillate; pain still hurts, loss still burdens—and therefore, most importantly—hope is still imperative. Faith in Jesus doesn’t erase divorce, struggle, cancer, breakups, or poverty from existence, but it does give us hope that these forms of worldly suffering are not the conclusion to our story. When I think of my relationship with Jesus today, what hits me as I seek Him more often is how seeking Him has needed to become a lifestyle rather than a bullet-point reference on a “To-Do” list. Seeking Jesus is either who I am, or it’s who I’m avoiding to be. 

THE SUNNY-FACED CHRISTIAN FALLACY

One of the distortions I came about believing over the course of affirming myself as an atheist and later converting to Christianity was the fallacy that people need to see Christians smiley and sunny-faced. To me, not smiling and lacking the sunny face meant Jesus mustn’t be as good as people said He was—but that’s just not true. What I had to learn over time is that feelings are feelings no matter what our beliefs are. A Christian can still feel depressed just like an unbeliever can. An unbeliever can feel happiness and express joy the way a Christian can; the main difference is that the joy of a Christian is not based on circumstance, but rather on the joy of the Good News that Jesus Christ has saved us, and that in Him, we have a reason to be selfless and to look forward to the future, making the present moment that much more significantly meaningful and purposeful. That has nothing to do with emotion or feeling, but with the faith in our heart. They are separate concepts, and combining the two as one is a mistake that perhaps many believers out there do not yet understand. To understand that difference, and to explain it in more delicate detail, is the purpose of this article.

THE FEELINGS-BASED FAITH MYTH

There is no such thing as “feeling like a Christian.” Christianity isn’t an emotion like being happy or angry is. Faith in Christ is exactly that: A walk of faith. What is “the walk” part? The journey of trusting in God above intuition, ratiocination, or our knowledge base, and the way our trust in Him transforms the way we live into a matured, dependent lifestyle based on asking God first before every significant move; whether we “go here or there,” or “say this or that.” The source of a person’s trust is a huge difference between a secularist and a Christian. A believer in Christ will pray to a personal God that he or she fully believes is listening, where a secularist might either pray to “the universe” (which is actually tantamount to Pantheism), which may embody (to the perspective of the secularist) the appearance of chance, luck, fortune, or something like that of fate (the belief in the development of events beyond a person’s control, regarded as determined by a supernatural power, but not “God”)—or—they may not pray at all. Feeling like a believer is a redundant, weightless phrase; there is no such thing. There no amount of feeling to define someone’s walk of faith. The measurement (if you want to call it that) occurs in the heart: How much do we trust in God to be our only answer to every question?

FAITH DOES NOT EQUAL HAPPINESS

Some unbelievers have the idea that believers consider themselves happier because of their faith. This is not true. Some Christians also have the idea that all atheists and unbelievers are unhappy, and this is also untrue. Faith, or a lack thereof, does not so much affect a person’s emotional status, but rather—faith impacts the mentality of the person, which is another way of saying that it gives them the hope and joy of a life beyond this world that comes in believing that Jesus’s death and resurrection is reason to believe there is a Heaven, and that being transformed in Christ takes us to where He is when we die physically on Earth. While on Earth, however, the transformation does not bring about happiness in the way some people believe. The fallacy that believing in God fixes our Earthly problems may be a distortion of the idea that faith in a loving God automatically brings us a sense of hope in our daily adversities. And while God does bring us hope (hope in Christ), our belief in Him and His son does not change that we still experience struggle on Earth.

Jesus even warned us of this:

John 16:33 “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”

TWO DIFFERENCES THAT DEFINE HOW WE LIVE

We are not to be fooled into believing everything will be idyllic once we believe. The difference between belief and disbelief is not merely emotional—the difference is noticed existentially in how we live our lives based on who we trust (God, or the world), and from where we derive our sense of hope (transient situational pleasures, or the hope of a transcendent, permanently blissful, perfect life without pain or death by believing in Christ as Lord). These two differences change the way we live our lives, noticeably enough to impact the people who witness us living out these choices in our actions. And make no mistake, people seeing us live this way does not influence mere happiness, since what is being emanated by Christian rebirth is not happiness. What do I mean? Let me explain.

SHORT-LIVED HAPPINESS AND ALL-ENCOMPASSING JOY

You may be asking, “What do you mean, you’re not happier?! You believe in Jesus!” I am no happier as a Christian now than I was an atheist almost 9 years ago. Why? My soul has been renewed in Christ in that my reason for everything (for example, why I think the way I do, or the reason for my actions and decisions) is now based on my faith in Christ, but the way I feel is still influenced by my current experiences. For example, I am joyful in Christ even when I have a horrible day and want to scream. My joy is locked in the Truth I believe in that states one day I will no longer experience the hardships and pain that I do now. I am happy when I eat chocolate, or when I am given a genuine, sincere hug from someone who truly cares about me. I am happy when I get to go to the movie theater, or when I’m reading a great book.

These moments never last, however, and that is the difference between joy and happiness: Joy is my all-encompassing reality, like the bird’s-eye view of my own heart, whereas happiness is the situational, hormonal reaction to what occurs in my day-today, hour-to-hour experiences. I can’t stay in the movie theater forever because I’d never see anyone, do anything, or be able to pay my bills; I can’t eat chocolate all day and night because eventually I’d get sick; I can’t read a great book forever because when I finish, I won’t need to reread it immediately 100 times over—I’ll want to read something new and challenging. This is what happiness looks like in this life. We experience happiness in spurts in the same way we put on a warm coat in the winter while taking it off in the summer; but we experience joy the way we live inside of the same body our entire lives. Our choice not to experience joy is the consequence of not receiving the hope and joy in something beyond that of ourselves and the ephemeralness of this world. Joy is provided in knowing Christ’s promises are set in stone—He not only fulfilled over 300 prophesies, He literally rose from the dead and was witnessed by over 500 people! Because of this, joy takes a new definition, and happiness becomes a reminder that what happiness we experience in this life is but a glimpse of what it will be in the future Kingdom to come.

THE REASON WHY WE DO “THE RIGHT THING”

Again, my soul has been renewed in Christ in that my reason for everything is now based on my faith in Christ, whereas before my reasons for being who I was capped off at explaining “I just wanted to do the right thing.” That is a secular response when it is the conclusion of our thoughts. When a Christian says, “I wanted to do the right thing,” they can and will further state that they wanted to do what Christ asked of them, or inspired them to do. A secular mind will stop at “the right thing” and be stumped when questioned further because they have no answer to offer in order to explain what makes the “right” choice the right one in their perspective. There is no scale or means of judging the right from the wrong because the secular mind allows morality to fall subjectively and arbitrarily per situation, and not every one of the more than 8 billion humans minds on this Earth would explain right from wrong, or good from bad the same way. In effect, doing the right thing is a weightless answer when it cannot be explained beyond the self. The difference then for the Christian is that our reason is not limited to the self, but rather, it begins with Christ and is then emanated through our actions to encourage others towards an exemplar far beyond the quarrels of human contradiction. 

LIVE IN JESUS’S NAME

When I finally understood that sunny faces weren’t necessary and that the best expression of Christ is allowing Him to work through us in every state or phase we’re in, I finally grasped that I can still worship Jesus even on a bad day. Many days, I just feel an indelible frown on my face and I don’t have a care in the world to turn it around. But what helps me is when I put Jesus first and help someone in need by doing so in His name. No matter how I feel (transient emotion), I can always live for Christ. When I am angry, I believe in bringing the reality of my rage to the Lord and being honest, surrendering the core reason for the rage and letting go by asking Jesus to take it away. How does that work? Trusting that His grace is sufficient (2 Corinthians 12:9), calling a Christian friend who supports the belief in surrendering all anxiety to the Lord (1 Peter 5:7), and praying with a contrite heart. A contrite heart can be birthed from humbling ourselves with honesty. When we’re honest with ourselves, the truth usually reveals an intention or motive that we can either surrender to God in repentance, or one that we can accept His grace for in recognizing there is no reason to hang onto the hurt which led us to feel the anger. In these ways, casting our worries, fears, aggressions, and disappointments to Him can be rectified in His grace, mercy, love, fellowship, community, Scripture, and trust. Everything done in His holy name.

THOUGHTS?

What I would like for you to take away from this article is that if you’re a recently converted Christian and you think you have to wear a certain face to show Jesus to the world, just relax. Jesus can’t work through a facade. He can work through every authentic heart, however. When we are real, Jesus works through us the most. When we are angry, He wants us to come to Him. He asks us to come to Him as we are, not after we’ve figured ourselves out (which we hardly ever do anyways). If this is you, breathe, close your eyes, pray, and release your troubles to Him who saves. No cliché here. Let it go. No need to hang onto excess baggage. God can and will handle it—just allow Him to work through the real you. The disappointments, the rage, the bad days, everything. Let Him shine through you no matter where you are in your faith. Try to do it your way and others will not see Him, but instead the will see you trying to be someone you aren’t. Live the way He calls us to live—authentically and in faith—and He will work wonders through us. 

If you enjoyed reading this article and would like to read more, please follow this blog, and please share this with anyone. You may also find me my Facebook page at Lance Price Blog 2017, Twitter at LPBlog2017, Instagram at LPBlog2017, or on Tumblr at lancepriceblog2017. If you have any questions or thoughts, please share them with me in the comments below. May God bless you today

Controversy


No More Of This

Dear you, I am tired of us dancing around the subject.  No amount of attempts to define it as something else will be successful.  We cannot ignore the history that we have, as much as we may wish we could. I want you.  I have for some time now.  The only time I ever gave … Continue reading "No More Of This"

Rediscovering Me

Hello dear reader(s)! Something I have decided to do since my last relationship ended is to attempt to do more of the things that make me happy on my own.  Things like songwriting, painting. sketching (poorly), reading, and writing. It’s been great. I’ve also been keeping pretty socially.  I’ve gone out and visited some old … Continue reading "Rediscovering Me"

Saint Day of Paddy’s

Hello dear reader(s)! Today is Saint Patrick’s Day.  I don’t celebrate Saint Patrick’s Day.  Why would I celebrate someone who made Ireland into a theocracy where nuns threw babies into septic tanks rather than acknowledge that woman might fuck when they’re not married and those babies aren’t evil?  Why celebrate that Ireland getting Christianity caused … Continue reading "Saint Day of Paddy’s"

It Returns

Hello dear reader(s)! I am back!  I do believe more regular posting is once again a possibility now, so I am officially announcing my return to both blog-type-thinging, as well as actually attempting to read as much of your wonderful blogs as time and life events shall allow. So…what all has happened since I last … Continue reading "It Returns"

Three Things in Human Life Are Important. The First Is to Be Kind. The Second Is to Be Kind. And the Third Is to Be Kind – Henry James

It’s hard to deny that our day-to-day lives go by pretty quickly. Sometimes I feel like a day passes with a blink of my eyes — whether it’s to my liking or distaste. And with all of the busyness of our daily routine, we sometimes feel like we’re putting on a balancing act or competing in an Olympic event. Maybe we have to get the kids to school, get to work on time, complete a task the boss wants by noon, walk the dog before he pees on the brand new carpet…the responsibilities can go on and on.

Accomplishing our tasks and goals is important. But, on my busiest days, I found that all the hustling and bustling makes me lose sight of opportunities to be empathetic and kind to those around me.

Like most of us, stress will never make me act hostile and throw my coffee in someone’s face. However, I do realize stress makes me forget to take the time and focus on being kind to others. Could I have turned around to help the delivery guy with the door? Why didn’t I take the moment to tell my co-worker I loved her new haircut?

Chances are that it won’t affect your life in the slightest if you get started on a task three minutes earlier. However, it will affect the lives of those around you if you spend those three minutes practicing kindness.

This post first appeared on The Seeds 4 Life written by April Stearns

You Must Learn a New Way to Think Before You Can Master a New Way to Be – Marianne Williamson

As human beings, we constantly want to evolve and get better at the things we do. We want to climb all ladders of life to get to the top as winners and achievers. But it’s hard. It’s difficult to get better and better – especially on a personal, and perhaps spiritual, level.

Sure, you can work hard at your job and get promotions and new benefits… But how do you become better as a human being? How do you make your mind a more peaceful space?

There’s so much involved in becoming a better person. You have to stand up for yourself and for others, go down roads that are uncomfortable and confrontational. You have to work to earn and give respect. And you have to learn a new way to think in order to find a new way to be.

Here’s the thing: in order for you and your mind to grow, you need to step outside of your mind for a moment, to find some perspective. And to take control. You need to hover above yourself and observe yourself; figure out how you work in certain situations and why. Start looking objectively at your thoughts, and try to see any situation through a different pair of eyes. Put your feet in another pair of shoes.

Then ask yourself this: Who am I? And who do I want to be? Am I moving towards that person, or away? What’s important to me, and am I fighting for it or not?

Challenge your thoughts and your mind, and master a new way of life – a new part of yourself. That’s the only way you will grow on a deeper, non-physical, level. But that kind of growth is so much more worth the hard work because the reward is a life lived true to yourself. And nothing can ever really beat that.

This post first appeared on The Seeds 4 Life written by Johanna Rosberg

Do the Earth a Favor, Don’t Hide Your Magic – Yung Pueblo

We are magic. Don’t believe me? Notice the breath you are taking right now. Without direction, our lungs expand. Place your hand in the middle of your chest and feel the beating of your heart muscle, pumping life through your body. We are alive.

The magic of being alive allows us the opportunity to create, to feel, to follow our passions. It gives us each day to follow our bliss and to learn about the magic we all are.

The illusion, however, lives in how we see ourselves. As ordinary or as extraordinary. 

As a grain in the sand or as part of the universe. As a product of chance or as a creation of magic. 

Close your eyes, feel your breath, touch your heart. We are an extraordinary part of this universe. We are magic.

This post first appeared on The Seeds 4 Life written by Lily Daub